If Life’s a Journey, do you know where you’re heading? Sounds a bit twee and definitely overused but like it or not life IS a journey. And from the minute we’re born we are in pursuit of happiness. Looking for happiness is a basic human motivation. Did you know we are born with two basic…
So says the old proverb. There are many things wrong with that concept, not the least of which is that you can spend ages TRYING to do something. The very concept of TRYING to do something suggests that it is difficult to achieve and that it is something that you might fail at. It actually…
All these statements carry the same message – something isn’t going to happen. “I should try to get more exercise…” “I shouldn’t eat so much junk food…” “That shouldn’t be allowed to happen…” “They should make a law against it…” They are great ‘excuse’ sentences that allow integrity to be partially preserved without the inconvenience…
Lack of acceptance causes pain, of that there can be no doubt. There’s that prayer about changing those things that can be changed, accepting those things which cannot be changed, and having the wisdom to know the difference. An important piece of acceptance is that something that has happened can never be UNhappened. Without such…
How many times might you have thought – even said – I shouldn’t feel like this? Most people do, at some point or another. And yet it is a totally invalid statement – if you ‘shouldn’t’ feel like that, then you wouldn’t. Feelings are always there for a reason and we can gain a lot…
Many people say ‘You make me sick’ to somebody in an argument… but hopefully this article will help you reconsider using this statement. Truth is, though, that nobody can MAKE you feel anything, Now, many people want to argue with that statement, believing that it is a fact that certain people CAN make them feel…
I’ve often heard the saying ‘Engage brain before opening mouth!’ but I wonder if you ever thought about the fact that as you behave towards others tells them what will affect YOU under similar circumstances? This might not seem so profound until you realise that if you shriek abuse at somebody in an argument, you…
People used to say (and still do!) “I blame the parents…” Well, the reason why many of us are the way we are probably has a lot more to do with relatives that are just bit further back than our parents… about three-and-a-half million years further back to be more precise! Australopithecus is (currently) regarded…
Sometimes, life play one of its cosmic jokes and dumps on us – big time. Well, there are several ways we can help ourselves to cope with those occasions… We can assume and believe that life does things FOR us and not TO us – and if you believe it you’ll always discover it to…
Many times, relationship problems bow up ‘out of nowhere’, often because a few basic rules of sharing life and home with another individual are often either misunderstood or ignored completely. Here are three useful pointers: In an argument (and we *do* all have them!) begin every sentence with “I” where you can. It’s very difficult…
This time, we’ll begin with a look at an interesting and extraordinarily powerful word. BUT… :..is one of the most powerful words in the English Language. Used wisely it can empower, enlighten and inspire. Used UNwisely (as it almost always is) it can obstruct even attempting to find success of any sort and will quite…
There are many times in life when something happens about which we feel mightily aggrieved. At those times, we might well look around us for the support of others, seeking one of those glances that says: “Yes, I know how you feel!” or: “My goodness! What a stupid thing that person just did!” Often, it…